There are few things I do not like talking about, or rather exploring, and one of them is the bounds of friendships. However, lately I find myself vexed at some particulars who I am not sure I understand. It seems that friendships have rules that can be broken, and some that are as elastic as rubber, (in that if exposed to heat....it becomes very pliable or melts)
Growing up, I learned the art of diplomacy, maneuvering and outmaneuvering situations. Those are talents that are overlooked yet they make the world go round. I have applied these lessons in most parts of my life, and have always trying to find one area in my life where diplomacy is not essential. The one place for me is friendships. I have never had to worry about my friendships, because once they are not working for me, I just walk away. Not a good policy...but it seems to have worked.
But lately, I have developed some strong friendships that I can't walk away from even if I wanted to. Therefore, I have found that diplomacy has to come into play even more so, because you learn to mask your feelings, and maneuver situations that hurt you, and work on the smile even when you want to scream.
Now I am working on answer to the question of whether friends are supposed to hurt you?...How do you deal with friends who are so self-absorbed that they hurt you, unintentionally?
2 comments:
Hey ya chica! I'm sorry that you're hurting. It sucks to have someone you think you can trust run you through the wringer. Buuuut....if it's not a habit, I'd have to say that it's just a cause of being an imperfect human in a fallen world. Even in marriage--when you're with you BEST friend--you still end up hurting each other and you still have to be diplomatic. If it become a habit that you're getting hurt, though, you gotta talk to them at some point. A good friend will hear your heart and be mortified for wounding it. Love ya!
Hey mon ami
you are right off course.
But it seems that I have tried to avoid diplomacy in friendships and try to keep them as open as possible.
But you are right...a good friend should understand. and if they don't, then off course walking away is an option.
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