Love Vs Stupidity

Now, I am not a cynic...not really. I could be at times especially when it comes to people who are corny with the mushy feelings...Some of my friends think that I dont have a heart because I dont get all giggly and chatty when a new guy comes into the scene or if the Bf buys them flowers or surprises them. I enjoy buyin flowers for my friends at times, especially when they are down....I do like to throw surprise parties for my friends too...which is crazy for someone who hates surprises...lol. Now dont get all hyped out...this is not a personal blog, but more of my life with some interesting intellectual observations.
So as I promised earlier, I am going to elaborate on the issue of sex and money...sex and media, sex and Africa. Better yet, sex and love. I come from a very different background where, I grew up in middle class Burundi. Then moved to the same in Kenya. When I read books about african women and some socialeconomic issues that make it impossible for women to be independent, I feel a pang of pain and sorrow. At the same time, I feel so blessed because I am bloody independent...prolly explains why I am still single. Back home, I've seen this....yea, women who get into relationships and then in the name of love are abused and even raped by their significant others. they become slaves to that man and off course they are always suspected of cheating so they are beaten even more. Then the absurdity of it all...the men are unfaithful to them and the women know it. Oh Lord have mercy...I will castrate a man faster than he can Say Amen if I ever found him cheating on me, and then expecting me to be okay with it...and then the bastard tries to lay hands on me...yea...not gonna happen.
So its in this independance that I find it necessary to keep my virginity...off course this is faith aside. I am not going to sleep with someone just because they need to be assured of my love for them....I mean, if you cant see it in my eyes and daily actions...then take a hike.
All being said and done, I do believe in the beauty and complexity of love. I do believe that sex is a gift that can be beautiful if its not being used for abuse...I believe in flowers(what woman doesnt?), the chocolates and sweet words...I am a sucker for good romance, but not stupidity.
By now, I have watched enough of Sex and the City, to know that one night stands are not that easy to get over...the media makes it so easy...so easy to sleep with someone and just move on emotionless....haha, RIGHT! please, maybe men are like that, but most women I've met, they are always crying and agonizing about what went wrong and what could have been.
So yea, while my friends to testify to the fact that I lack a romantic heart...I can honestly say, I love it that I have been blessed with a strong back and really hard head...lol
So here is something cute....which moved me really
Gaze into my eyes.
Let me know you'd fight thousands, for my love.
Slip your hand in mine ask me to dance with you tonigh.
Just ask me, for my Love.
I am the "nice" girl you never knew you were looking for....
So yea, I was moved